It's not great to dwell on the past, the different choices and turns that could've changed an entire life. Wallowing in the Ifs changes nothing and wastes time to boot. But sometimes the Ifs stick to the brain, pop up at random times, slide around in the middle of the night when one is laying in bed staring at the ceiling.
The assumption is that things would've gone better if only this or that or an unknown other event had happened. Nobody wants to dwell on the possibility things could be worse- of course things would be better If Only.
I daydream a lot, about the past more than the present and future. I want to get unstuck from the past, exorcise the Ifs, Ands, and Buts that clutter up my memory.
